Thanks for your interest in my problem. I spent all day dismanteling the wiring, the start/stop switch wiring, the fuse box, and the DESS switch. All things tested good and proper with an ohms/multimeter. Each item did exactly what it was supposed to do. Even testing continuity from the ECM connectors to each item, with and without power to the system. All functioned as they should. This still led me to the conclusion that I have a blitzed ECM. Only the brainworks inside the ECM can keep the relay constantly energized. At least I believe that I didn't leave anything untested so the ECM is my only conclusion. Still, if you or someone has a more vast understanding and knowledge of this system, I'm all eager to learn. I am 72 years old and was an electronics tech for the USPS with tons of training under my belt so I know enough about the validity of my troubleshooting and testing. I appreciate your effort to help and most assuredly appreciate it. Thank you again.
One more thing that still leads me to a bad ECM is that when the relay is pulled, then replaced, it's energized as we know, but before the timeout of the ECM occurs, the display is very dimly lit up, but not properly displaying the normal info, just some of it.